It’s not every day asteroid Chiron visits our Venus (thank goodness!) – Chiron is far enough out in our solar system that it moves pretty slowly, so years pass from the time it makes one aspect to a planet or point in our natal chart to contacting that very same spot again via a different astrological aspect. If you want to understand the basic premise of how transits between Chiron and Venus operate, just have a listen below:
“Never insecure until I met you
(Now I’m bein’ stupid)
I used to be so cute to me
(Just a little bit skinny)
Why do I look to all these things
To keep you happy?
Maybe get rid of you
And then I’ll get back to me…
My outsides look cool
My insides are blue
Every time I think I’m through
It’s because of you
I’ve tried different ways
But it’s all the same
At the end of the day
I have myself to blame
Can’t believe I’m trippin’….
You can buy your hair if it won’t grow
You can fix your nose if he says so
You can buy all the makeup
That MAC can make
But if you can’t look inside you
Find out who am I to
Be in the position to make me feel so
Even the “easy” contacts (sextile and trine) between Chiron and Venus can feel raw – deep wounds regarding our own sense of attractiveness, self-worth, and value tend to surface when these planets make aspect; particularly as this is reflected back to us through the mirror of relationship (or the lack thereof). Often this expresses as a crippling internal ache regarding the ways in which we’ve been commodified and/or objectified – especially for the sake of illuminating how we may have done this to ourselves. This isn’t to imply we’re to blame, but it does give perspective on the vulnerabilities we’ve had in the fabric of our own self-worth that made such tears possible. “Hard” contacts between Chiron and Venus (conjunction, square, opposition, quincunx) can be especially brutal; tripping off every insecurity we have related to our attractiveness as well as our sense of value as a human being. We may look to Others to make us feel (superficially) whole; potentially attracting agonizing and sometimes even abusive relationship dynamics for the sake of getting us to realize this must be healed from within.
Because women are broadly ruled by Venus, this has the ability to be especially heart-rending for the fairer sex and it may have us addressing deep-seated injuries regarding our sense of femininity. Though both sexes can certainly resonate with any and all of these themes, it is worth pointing out that men may tend to experience this energy more through the lens of financial issues since (even still in this day and age) the sense of self-worth tends to be more readily tied up in what they are or aren’t making monetarily. Very broadly speaking and certainly with exceptions, women do seem to internalize Venus energy a bit more while men often look at it more as a tangible resource. Again, this isn’t meant to be one-size-fits-all astrology, but any time we talk about “gendered” planets such as Mars or Venus we do well to consider basic differences between the sexes in considering how that planetary energy may express. Over time I feel this will be less and less the case as we continue evolving as a species and increasing room is made to circumvent the gender binary, but for the sake of not derailing this post further that will have to be a topic for another time. Regardless of gender my point is merely that part and parcel of Chiron affecting Venus is that it may very well affect matters relating to what we earn and have; especially as this impacts our sense of self-worth.
No matter what form the manifestation(s) of this energy take, it’s important to understand Chiron never leaves us bereft of Medicine – despite how excruciating a visit from this cosmic Centaur may be, it always prompts us to heal from within and address any congenital weakness impeding our soul’s evolution. There is something achingly beautiful about this process – where we’re often rubbed raw in order to realize that we’re so much more than just our wrapping paper – and the love that we would give to others must first be gifted to the Self. ❤