In a moment of pure Venus Retrograde synchronicity, I recently heard about a new dating app that is turning traditional matchmaking on its head: Hater. The basic premise is that it matches you with a partner based upon things you both can’t stand – its logo even features a little upside-down heart. How’s THAT for some Retrograde Venus vibes?!
I think this is an app that would probably most appeal to people with a strong Venus/Pluto or Venus/Mars energy signature, as these peeps generally don’t do milquetoast and like their partners ardent for better or worse. The capacity to bond over mutual dislike for something/someone seems to be a baseline function of both energies, albeit with some very notable differences in expression. Venus also does not function in typical “lovey-dovey” ways when wired into either of these energies; consider that she is in her detriment in Aries (Mars) and Scorpio (Pluto).
I can foresee this app being either really good or really bad – there’s not much room for in-between here, IMO. The bad side: It can potentially turn the prospective relationship into a cesspool of negativity that winds up degrading into a bitchfest. The basic principle of Venus is “like attracts like” – if this is allowed to go very low-vibration, it can certainly have the capacity to be draining for one or both parties. If we want people to meet us with energy we like, wouldn’t it make more sense to bring our best to the table instead of our worst, then? Of course, this can also be quickly remedied as the app is intended just for making that initial connection.
The good: If you both have a strong aversion to the same types of things, well, there’s really not much to fight about, is there? An app like this could weed out a lot of dealbreakers for people early on, and less conflict can have the ability to correlate to more harmony.
The other thing I am hoping is that it sticks to more meaningful questions as the major screeners, for example a “hate” on “Trump” or “Kids” getting a much higher point value than a “hate” on “Sleeping with a lot of pillows” (an actual metric). Besides, I actually *like* sleeping with lots of pillows – it works out great if I were matched with a partner who only wants one; more for me! 😀
Venus is about to leave watery Pisces a prolonged stay in fiery Aries, shifting from the sign of her exaltation to the sign of her detriment for an almost 4 month long stay beginning this coming Friday. This is a big energy shift, as Venus goes from being an angelic Dream Girl to a total tomboy ready to kick ass and take names – think: Xena. This will be further complicated by Venus’ impending retrograde (kicking off at the beginning of March) and Mars entering Taurus shortly thereafter, creating a mutual reception between Venus and Mars. This is going to be a tough pairing because Mars is *also* debilitated in Taurus, meaning that although the energies of these planets reinforce one another they’re apt to bumble around rather clumsily; neither being very comfortable in one another’s home. It’s kind of like The Odd Couple + Trading Spaces – will Mars be the bull in the china shop? Will Venus wind up burning the place down? Tune in during March and find out, LOL!
In all seriousness, though, these energies *can* be worked with to coax more constructive expressions out them – you just have to really keep an eye out for their more problematic manifestations and do whatever you can to avoid playing into them. Neutrally, this has a “get money” kind of vibe to it which can be great if we need a little extra motivation to push our earnings UP! For example, a little friendly competition can be lucrative – a desire to win can spur us to put ourselves out there and be more aggressive regarding anything that can score us some profit. HOWEVER, we shouldn’t be SUPER forceful about it – polish and finesse are absolutely essential for balance! We also need to avoid any super-risky/impulsive financial ventures so we don’t wind up “in the red”. The other thing about this energy is it can spur us to SPEND money just as fast as we make it – it could figuratively burn a hole in our pockets for sure! Insta-Thing Lust is a very real hazard of this pairing, and covetousness should definitely be viewed as a Deadly Sin. If you want something BAD, spend the Venus retrograde fiendishly acquiring the funds to make it yours but stop short of actually buying the thing until Venus reaches her home turf of Taurus in June – especially if it’s a beauty product/treatment, any kind of “luxury” purchase, or major clothing/apparel expenditure. This will ensure it’s not an impulse buy and by then that moneymaking heat-seeking missile you’ve been developing/training for the last 4 months should have netted you more than enough cash to burn!
This planetary pairing is also great for attracting a comrade in arms to fight the good fight alongside you, or for charming/disarming a rival. Flirtations also flare up MEGA fast with this energy, but just be aware that chemistry ≠ compatibility. You can be insanely physically attracted to someone, have sensational sex, but might find them incredibly annoying as an actual partner so rushing into a romance is not a great idea. Lovers may wind up being be conquests more than anything, due in part to the fair amount of selfishness this vibe can generate where each may look to their own “wants”. The other thing to note is “traditional” gender role reversals may become more commonplace under this vibe, with women being more inclined to make the first move/be the pursuer/wear the pants in the relationship while men become more passive. Broadly speaking, Mars in Taurus can tend to feminize men while Venus in Aries may be inclined to butch up broads – throw a mutual reception into the mix and it’s a bit of a gender-bender!
Some vital info for May: We have a mutual reception in effect between Mars & Venus for about 80% of the month! A mutual reception means that Venus will inhabit the sign Mars rules and vice versa, which creates a strongly resonant interplay between Martian & Venusian energies, bringing them out to the nth degree. In a nutshell, this means ….Read More…
That’s how you do Mars In Libra the high-class way – Boo-ya!
Pay attention to this theme, as it’s active from December of 2013-July of 2014 while Mars visits this sign. It also falls under the “Honing our (mad) social skillz” category – see related post .
Personally I’m pretty psyched about the opportunity to hammer this out, because doesn’t a little more grace & tact make us all better people and the world a better place? It’s why I called Mars in Libra the “Way of the Peaceful Warrior” in my February newsletter!
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Coinciding with Mars’ entrance into “put-on-a-pretty-face” Libra in December, Facebook announced they now offer a more cut-to-the-chase “unfollow” button to replace their “hide all” function. A textbook passive-aggressive, Mars-in-Libra way of dealing with relational conflict on the social networking site, rather than directly “unfriend” someone because their posts continually annoy you, one can use this feature to simply mute their posts on your feed. This way on the surface it still *looks like* all is fine and dandy – even though it really isn’t. This is a classic Mars-in-Libra theme if I ever did see it, including their re-packaging of the “hide all” feature to more directly state its intended purpose for dealing with others.
I have to say I’m not very fond of the basic premise of this kind of thing on principle for a number of reasons. For one, I think it’s easier to practice this sort of “benign” form of navigating relational conflicts than it is to proactively engage in the nitty-gritty work of negotiating potential hotspots a bit more openly. My feeling is that hitting the mute button can actually …Read more…