Relational Friction Under Mars In Libra

There’s definitely something in the air…an electric sort of twinge that feels awfully familiar.  What we are sensing are the energetic effects of Mars in Libra triggering Pluto & Uranus.  Every single time Mars has agitated this duo over the last few years, it is a predictable shit storm (yes, that’s a technical term, LOL) – with Mars in Libra, this tends to dredge up its fair share of conflict in relationships, and from those heightened fight-or-flight responses being triggered, it can certainly generate adrenal fatigue as well. I’ve had 3 consults alone in the last 24 hours that were all dealing with the subject of some pretty major relationship upheaval of one stripe or another, so the planets don’t lie.

The resonant theme I keep seeing running throughout, though, is of people not wanting to be alone – how very Mars in Libra.  If there’s one thing this placement is desirous of, it’s a companion, but sometimes we can’t fight ultimately going our separate ways – our individual evolutionary journey may in fact depend upon it.   Uranus & Pluto are very powerful transpersonal forces, and any time Libra planets get drawn into a T-square with these two it can put a lot of pressure on unions…they either learn how to adapt and move forward, or get stuck in the tar pits of the status quo and wind up extinct. But Mars in Libra’s involvement tends to foretell the individual breaking away from/breaking out of the partnership…our identity as a couple may be inclined to fracture and break when under this kind of strain; especially with Black Moon Lilith nearby and Venus about to submerge into Scorpio, the sign of her detriment.

As I was mulling all of this over, this song suddenly made a very conspicuous appearance out of nowhere; perhaps as if to reinforce my thought process on the matter:


“I am leaving
This is starting
To feel like
It’s right before my eyes
And I can taste it;
It’s my sweet beginning

And I can tell just what you want:
You don’t to be alone
You don’t want to be alone…”

The Universe never ceases to amuse me…! But it is a beginning, even if it’s an end – we must not lose courage! In my 2016 astro-overview (published in my December newsletter), I wrote of Jupiter going into Libra which is kind of A Big Deal for unions. As I said therein, sometimes to be better together, we must grow separately as individuals – if you want to reap the benefits of a better relationship when Jupiter enters this sign next year, better to clear the decks and be alone to do some hardcore self-development if you know what you have 1) isn’t what you want or 2) isn’t working and is legitimately beyond repair.

I know it can be scary. I know it takes bravery. It is a loss, and loss is never easy. But I will relate a personal anecdote here in saying that something I learned about myself some time ago is that I’d rather be alone than “settle for half a loaf”, as a very wise and kindly Grandmother figure once put it to me. I cried so hard when I heard those words…not because I knew it was over at that exact moment, but because it was so utterly validating to hear that someone completely understood what a massive struggle it had been, and – more importantly – assured me that I wasn’t meant to do this to myself. I also want to say that being alone is not a death sentence – it is an opportunity for us to develop a more intimate relationship with ourselves so that when love does find us again, we are able to have a fuller, more complete understanding of our love nature to have a better, happier partnership.

So who can relate?



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