Heavenly Holly-days

Hello, my avid astrological enthusiasts!  It’s that time of year, and I’m in a giving mood – to this end, I have prepared a handy sign-by-sign guide to navigating 2023’s remaining months.  In it you will find the most topical issues affecting your zodiac sign (read for your Ascendant/Rising Sign if you know that, too) from now until the start of 2024.  I hope you enjoy it & happy holly-days!

♈ Dear Aries – Although your year probably didn’t start on a stellar note and it may have taken you a hot minute to hit your stride, you’re definitely in a stronger position overall as we’re closing out 2023.  The trickiest part for you may have involved a major (but necessary) overhaul to both your thinking and possibly the way you have been communicating yourself, but now you’re back to firing on all cylinders! As the year comes to an end, think about the theme of *restoration*; how to put energy back into *yourself* so you don’t start 2024 as depleted as you likely began 2023.  It may sound corny, but maybe part of this involves internally talking yourself up more; perhaps it would help get your mojo flowin’ to start your days with some positive self-affirmation??  Focus on how adaptable you’re become this year, and know you’ve got the right stuff to make it through *any* changes that life throws your way!

Aries, the cosmic conditions want you to also focus on the concept of nourishment right now – there’s the kind of psychological nourishment just under discussion via positive, restorative self-talk, and there is also physical nourishment and how you’re fueling your body to meet the day.  Think foods and/or supplementation that can help provide a “long burn”.  Ponder not only seasonal eating for the colder months (things like complex carbohydrates, high-quality protein, as well as supplements such as vitamins C & D to help you combat the effects of the darkest part of the year), but also quite possibility the elimination of things that could be causing underlying inflammation.  You may be able to clue into whatever this is by paying attention to the smaller signals your body might be giving off (any redness, itching, hypersensitivity, sneezing, etc.), so really listen to it and make an effort to nourish it better.

To this end, a consult with a nutritionist, herbalist, or naturopath may be in the cards.  I will also say that at the very end of the year, you may need to be more mindful of your health than others around Christmas & the New Year – you could find yourself more susceptible to illness, so please do what you can now to fortify your body and do try to avoid contracting anything communicable by being diligent about your respiratory health; especially if you’re traveling. In fact, part of improving your health may also entail finding a better approach to stress than simply adopting the mentality of “power through it” – there may be a technique or philosophy (such as mindfulness or breathing techniques) you can read up on that might beneficially change both this paradigm and your overall well-being!

♉ My Beloved Bull – It is fair to say that Taurus generally is not the biggest fan of change, but you’ve certainly grown much more accustomed to it as of late; both on the longer arc and as recently as this past summer & fall as the cosmos likely tested your ability to evolve & move gracefully toward the future that awaits.  It may have been messy, but now you’re smoothing your hair & neatening up after a period of disruption & disorganization.  Recent changes made benefit you; in fact, they could be transformational provided you don’t allow perfectionism to be your undoing.  So stop with the self-criticism & ease up on yourself!  Honest to goodness, it looks like you could use some aromatherapy & some well-deserved pampering even if the demands of life don’t simply vanish into thin air – carve out some time to please YOURSELF in the midst of everything and you’ll feel much more balanced heading into the last 2 months of the year.  Seriously; both scent and aesthetics can do wonders for you – bust out the essential oil diffuser and gear scents toward things like calm, relaxation, and/or smells that help you find your center in a storm, or experiment with a new signature fragrance to reclaim your personal power.

As for the visual end of things, perhaps it’s time to beautify your surroundings & gear them toward the aforementioned ends – even light aesthetic tweaks to your home or office can help you keep an even keel during this busy time of year, so think less about seasonal decorating and more about simple spruce-ups that have greater longevity.  Never underestimate the power of design to shift energy; whether we’re talking about feng shui for your environment or regarding what you see in the mirror each day.  Color therapy is *a thing*.  And so is music therapy – sound may be part & parcel of your self-care prescription, so extend this thinking to your playlist for some ambient assuagement of whatever may be ailing you.

And honestly?  Rather than being smiling and forcing yourself to be polite, sometimes it’s just easier to excuse yourself and/or avoid people who emit stank vibes – you may have the opportunity to put those evasion skills into practice over the holiday season, so check the company you’re keeping, notice patterns, and purify thyself accordingly.  You may also need to curb holiday spending a bit to keep credit card bills from getting out of hand – as the year winds down, examine material compulsions and get to the root of the psychology behind spending.  You benefit most from making a change here; one that can help you add to your bank account instead of depleting it.  Sometimes this is as simple as unplugging/disconnecting from what your friends are buying/consuming, or controlling your online presence so targeted ads can’t hit their mark.

♊ Greetings, genial Gemini!  Well, you might not be so genial at the moment, actually – you may be feeling more emotional than usual in November; in fact, “unsettled” or “stewing” are not outside the realm of possibility either. This is only temporary, but if you find yourself in a funk get to the bottom of whatever is disturbing you ASAP because the quicker you figure it out, the faster you can process what’s bugging you and organically move this heavy energy to get to a more informed – and I dare say transformed – state.  The theme for you right now is moving from stuck to empowered; particularly in a mental sense.  All sorts of feelings can pop up for people this time of year, and sometimes grief is one of those things that can rear its head and hold us fast.

Whether this might be seasonal or circumstantial, it may help to talk to somebody.  I don’t mean your friends; I mean maybe it’s time to put your mental health FIRST and reach out to a therapist.  There’s no shame in struggling, but if you find yourself ruminating then it’s time to fight those repetitive, negative thoughts with a multifaceted approach.  In addition to exorcising what’s bothering you orally (via talking), you may benefit from physical movement so take walks & breathe deep.  Also, mind the input channels – whether we’re talking about online environments that foster contention, competition, and/or negativity, friends with whom you’re having a divergence of values and are tempted to argue with, or craptastic news that somehow makes it into your feed & then catalyzes a tailspin, be proactive about unplugging so you can pull UP! You may also benefit from a salt bath or saining rite to help cleanse your vibe, so do feel free to get your “woo woo” on even if it’s a bit late in the season to be getting witchy – hmmm; maybe right now it’s less of a Thanksgiving atmosphere & more “The Nightmare Before Christmas” feelz? Whatever the case, try incorporating some metaphysical remedies for mundane troubles & lean into it!

Speaking of Thanksgiving, in all seriousness you should start feeling more upbeat the closer we get to Turkey Day. Though whatever has been bothering you won’t magically vanish, you will start to realize that you *do* have a lot to be grateful for, that the glass is in fact half-full if you can just tweak your perspective a bit, and there are little things you can do increase feelings of hopefulness.  Combat any inclination toward self-isolation or loneliness with phone calls or Facetime, feel better about life and the world by volunteering or doing something charitable (because this can also give you much-needed perspective), and avoid self-medicating.  Perhaps some journaling would help, or even a simple gratitude list to remind you of all the little things you can feel good about if you start to feel sad or lost.  You may be feeling more sensitive than usual this holiday season, so be gentle with yourself and surround yourself with positive music, people, and try to adopt a more optimistic mindset.

It may help you to consider a weekend getaway near mid-November, or if not, then perhaps go for a brief pleasure-cruise instead; a hike, a trip to the Christmas tree farm, a drive-by holiday light tour, or whatever – you don’t have to go far or do anything spectacular to enjoy yourself and adopt a merrier headspace. The year may even end with good financial news such as a raise or promotion at work, a partner/spouse getting a nice holiday bonus, or similar as we hit December.  I would avoid travel if you can, though; moreso around Christmas/the New Year because you’re more inclined than most to face holiday “headaches” – this could be both metaphorical and literal, as aside from trip-related hassles your immune system might not be quite up-to-snuff.  You could come down with something you would rather *not* catch as this “depleted” influence lingers due to your ruling planet backtracking & feeling out-of-sorts – pencil in some more restorative time at the end of the year to just rest; take extra-relaxing warm showers or baths, drink plenty of high-quality (alkaline??) water, steam your airways, and focus on sleep.  The astro tells me you might also benefit from a caffeine detox near the end of December (though do wean off gradually; remember what I said about “headaches” because caffeine withdrawal is real!) – try herbal teas/tisanes, golden milk, or hot cocoa as alternatives if you need a cuppa something warm.

♋ Como estas, Cancer? Boy; I sure bet you’re glad to see those eclipses in your rear-view mirror! As we turn the calendar page to November, you’re probably all too happy to be putting the (recent?) past behind you and distracting – I mean, devoting – yourself to home & family matters.  In all seriousness, the intensity may have been just a bit much as of late and the holiday season may truly be a welcome diversion from all the commotion, but the planets also tell me you likely may still need to dedicate some focus toward your inner world; which no amount of turkey & tradition should sidetrack. You’re in a reorientation phase, and part of steadying yourself involves keeping your emotional space sacred because everything hasn’t fully settled out yet.  This may be a somewhat uncomfortable process in moments, but emotional hygiene is important because it will help keep you balanced; especially when other people (say, partners/spouses & their families, for example) start adding greater complexity to the mix.  In particular, shining a light on your own fluctuating moment-to-moment needs is the key to proper self-care; helping you to manage responsibilities more-or-less effortlessly.  And for the love of all that is holy, ask for help!  Cancer often gets the reputation of being a “Domestic Goddess”, but forget trying to uphold that image in favor of a more self-compassionate plan; one that involves the successful division of time & labor so you’re not trying to hold it all together by yourself & then cracking under the weight of this strain.

Be mindful of your time around the hearth this holiday season, my caring Crab – eschew over-committing yourself to things like holiday bake sales, being a one-person catering show, or choosing time & labor-intensive recipes when you can make quality-yet-effortless meals that you can still be proud of with the aid of some proper planning.  Go old-school & put that crockpot to work, too – if you’re super busy (either with family-related commitments, work, or additional cooking duties), having a meal that’s ready when you are and with a negligible amount of preparation can make the difference between manageable vs. feeling overworked.  If you can call upon a partner or parent/grandparent to pitch in on communal family obligations, do so.  If you can ask your boss about taking take a personal or sick day, appeal to their humanity and make use of your PTO (many of us have a “Use it or lose it” workplace PTO policy anyway; why leave any remaining days on the table?).

If you can relinquish a culinary burden with takeout or catering, there’s also no shame in subbing it out to the pros once in a while.  The moral of this story is: Subcontract what you can when you can to account for increased demands of time & focus and you’ll find the going much more comfortable.  While I don’t want to add to your list of duties, the very end of 2023 looks like a good time to put energy toward matters involving diet & nutrition, cleanliness & organization, work, and/or wellness as we approach the New Year.  It looks like you could benefit from a low-key kickoff to 2024 that focuses more on “putting your house in order” – anything that’s been neglected on any of the aforementioned fronts may start to stick out like a sore thumb, so maybe get an early start on Dry January with some boring-but-necessary Taking Care of Business instead of partying the night away.  Whether it’s post-holiday household chores like packing away the ornaments & special dinnerware, cleaning up your diet and curbing the excess indulgences of the season, updating your CV to go fishin’ for a new job in the New Year, or other similar “adulting”-type things, it will help set the tone right for the next 365 days.  Your body also may not be up to “just one more night out” – I see a need for rest, as it seems to be feeling sensitized and also looks like you may have sick people in your orbit. Whether you find yourself playing “nurse” or just want to avoid coming down with something yourself, staying in for New Year’s may be just what the doctor ordered.

♌ Bonjour my lovely Leo!  As the zodiac’s resident “Party Animal”, you tend to be more hype than most about all the celebrations that happen this time of year.  Nobody loves fun quite like our Lions, but the recent eclipses may have dimmed your mood as you weathered some turbulence.  Emerging from this, you seem to be rooting out some non-productive behaviors & thought patterns – possibly even ugly ones – and for this, you should be commended.  This sort of organic growth isn’t easy, and although this type of change isn’t instantaneous you should be starting to see signs of movement in the right direction *provided* you can restrain your lower, more simplistic or even animalistic “base” impulses. Tell the “lizard brain” to chill! And embrace self-compassion on this journey – you’re definitely driven, so as you are motivating yourself consider also what you are doing to nourish this transformation and choose positivity/a “can-do!” spirit over masochism.  If you need a break, take one because this is an intensive procedure and if it starts to feel bad, it’s likely to be de-motivating.  You’re becoming more intimate with *yourself* though this process, and the energy you’re putting out/in has to be managed in a sustainable way!  As a helpful addition, you may find music cathartic and/or motivating – think about “theme music” to help reinforce this transformation as you shed old skin.

A new you is on the way, luminescent Lion, though it has not quite arrived yet and I must caution you not to squander your energy engaging in – or heaven forbid; picking – fights.  Because your patience may be tested at times – particularly over the Thanksgiving holiday week – and this is especially true regarding things that may be perceived as challenges to your philosophical or perhaps even political identity; make an effort to de-personalize, consider the source before raising your hackles, and avoid “right-fighting”.  If elder figures irk you, consider it a generational issue à la “OK Boomer” and make your mantra “moving onward…(and upward!)”, because there’s nothing to be won by fighting.  It could also be a boss with poor boundaries bringing their politics or dogma into the office that ticks you off instead; just keep yourself in-check and stay off the soapbox & you’ll be fine.

December sees you in a more upbeat vibe overall – some speedy self-healing is definitely kicking in and you’ll enjoy both positive, healthy self-assertion as well as an increase in self-confidence – your energy levels seem to be getting a boost too, so do something outdoorsy and get movin’ because your legs look restless!  Between December’s 2nd & 3rd weeks, you may have to watch your intake of “substances” – be this alcohol, cannabis, or anything else – as there is a rather “self-medicating”/”escapist” vibe in play, so maybe instead of going this route just focus on you and withdraw from the outside world a little bit to sit quietly with yourself. If you’re tempted to spin things (i.e. your perspective/framing) in a more positive light than reality warrants, remember that disappointment is also a part of life and cultivating acceptance of the reality of “less-than-ideal” is an important part of personal growth.  You may even be feeling a little blue at this time – make sure you’re getting adequate rest, try some meditation or visualization, and do your best to adopt a more Buddhist philosophy re: life & suffering and freedom from attachment.

Do watch your physical health around this time, too – this is a short yet potentially vitality-diminishing influence and you probably don’t want to wind up sick this close to Christmas.  By following the above advice & using this as a period of rest & reflection, you’re less likely to come down with something.  Christmas weekend isn’t great for travel if you can avoid doing so – aside from the possible health hiccup, you may find yourself roadblocked by things like delayed or canceled flights, traffic jams, car problems, etc. and it may not be worth the stress.  Work/career matters may be starting to take precedence anyway and it looks like your energies are best focused in this direction at the end of the year.  There looks to be an opportunity brewing, though it may not initially present this way in terms of economics.  This is a slow-growth scenario, so be open to change because it may benefit you more in the long run.

♍ Hello there, versatile Virgo!   You certainly are an industrious critter, but as of late all the busyness may have gotten rather…compulsive…as we enter early November. What are you really nurturing with all this motion?  It isn’t about consuming metaphorical empty calories in an effort to fill a void, but sitting quietly with whatever it is that might be making you uncomfortable at the moment and embracing acceptance, because it’s difficult to change what isn’t acknowledged.  Peeking inward even further, I daresay similar could even apply to the bedroom if you have found that your desires have gotten a little…exotic as of late.  What hunger is being filled here?  Do not mistake intensity for intimacy – there’s nothing wrong with experimenting or mixing it up, but don’t entirely discount the possibility this may not be coming from the most wholesome of places, either.  That’s not a judgement; rather a call for greater self-understanding if this is something that might manifest in a lather-rinse-repeat cycle that perhaps doesn’t feel so great/just leaves you hungry for more of the same – remember the “empty calories” metaphor as you turn instead toward a more tantric experience.   Nobody is perfect, but it’s about starving parts of the brain that perpetuate negative feedback loops and instead using this as a push to embrace change that nourishes healthier, more insightful, and empowered thinking.  To this end, feed your spiritual side – Virgo often gets lost in the minutiae of logic, but this call for transformation comes from a higher place than reason.  You may benefit from some quiet to tune into the message, because it is subtle and for your ears alone.

Uncharacteristically, you may have to watch your mouth more than most during the last two months of the year – usually you’re fairly discerning in word choice, but there is a candor in play that may run you afoul of authority figures.  Saying less *is* more in November & December, so filter your texts and emails – especially professional correspondence – under this same criteria as well for best results as we close out the year. It’s the kind of thing where you might be background stressed and make an attempt to laugh this off with a (possibly off-color?) humor that just doesn’t land well with your audience – play it safe instead.  I recommend turning this energy inward – rather than verbal energy, make it mental – use the end of the year to learn something, because it’s pretty hard to stick your foot in your mouth if your nose is buried in a book!

Seriously; it looks like there’s something you could read that provides major food for thought, and it may even help you professionally.  This could be anything from tackling the foundations of a foreign language, to taking a course on something that assists your career development, and many things in between – you might be distance e-learning, using an app (ex: Babbel for foreign language), or even watching a series of TED talks that inspire you rather than actually “hitting the books”; the point is, you’re taking in information and using it to expand your mind (and hopefully later, career prospects!).  Of course, you’ll still want to be discerning and utilize ”a grain of salt” to ensure that you’re taking in information from reputable and authentic sources who know what they’re talking about rather than someone just posturing for prestige.  The end of the year may have you thinking about professional matters; especially as it pertains to growth – don’t rush to make any decisions right now; simply gather more information.  This has a disorienting feel to it & you would be better served by waiting, not making assumptions, and asking plenty of questions – mid/late Jan is better for making moves.

♎ Greetings, likable Libra!  You and your cousin Taurus had quite an “exciting” summer/early fall; the likes of which you could probably do without for a while. You’re in a different place now and getting more used to going your own way; this divergence from the crowd having become a sign of healthy self-esteem.  As November begins, you’re pondering what is healthy and continuing to make organic changes toward this end in all contexts with an eye toward balance, reciprocity, and placing fair value on your own preferences. Just due to the nature of the holiday season, interpersonal dynamics are again going to come into focus and as such you will have opportunities to heal the part of you that says “Just smile & get along!” by trying to talk it out if/when you’re hurt and being honest about your experience.

If that doesn’t work or isn’t logically feasible, honor the part of yourself that would rather avoid/evade hurtful dynamics altogether – it’s fine to take a pass and/or dip out, because you deserve PEACE!  Through the bulk of the month, perhaps the most helpful thing for you is to open lines of communication – call a cousin, gab with your best friend, and generally concentrate on uplifting conversations in order to balance out the ones that maybe *haven’t* felt so good.  There are still people who love you and whom you love; people who will be there with words of encouragement or with whom you can share a hearty laugh, and this will help to keep you in a positive headspace.

Like Taurus, you may need to wrangle spending in December.  You may also become aware of a pattern involving “transactional dynamics”; wherein material gain is leveraged as a bid for engagement that perhaps doesn’t feel so hot.  Because you’re gotten so much savvier lately, this shouldn’t be too hard for you to spot and will allow you to put proper communication boundaries in place to put a stop to anything funky in this regard.  For example, parents offering to fly you out to spend a(nother) dysfunctional Christmas together?  No thanks; you’re good!  You benefit more from some alone time; possibly using this as a period of reflection, rest, and/or an opportunity to volunteer & do something charitable.  I could totally see you spending the holiday volunteering at a soup kitchen, food pantry, or similar – you’re in a giving and self-sacrificial space, and this is a much healthier option than martyring yourself in the prior way.  If a soup kitchen isn’t available/accessible, many programs like Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous run 24-hour drop-in clubs at the holidays to help keep people sober during a potentially triggering time – you could always get in contact with a chapter in your area to see if you could do something like make a donation or drop off holiday snacks, cookies, or delicious non-alcoholic refreshments to help the cause and give people a taste of the holiday foods they might be missing in order to keep clean/sober.

♏ Salutations, Scorpio!  You’re more in your element than most as November arrives – you look sharp and energized, though you may be challenged with a shift in perspective that results in a “change of plans”.  You may get feedback that you are moving alright, but perhaps not in the direction you want early in the month – understand there’s more to life than just the basics of what you *think* you want on the surface and  look for what truly nourishes you underneath it all.  Thankfully, you’re not feeling passive at all – especially as the Scorpio New Moon arrives – and you know what you have to do, which may involve relinquishing something you thought you wanted and changing course.

You’re a rock star at this, though, and may make one more major move for something that truly feeds your soul before the year is out.  Contemplate how to nourish this transformation, in all senses of the word. You are an absolute powerhouse of energy in the first three weeks of November with damn near limitless catalytic potential at your disposal, but it may be most beneficial for you to focus these very potent reserves on something you’ve had in-process for a long time; possibly years, even – this looks like you’re both letting go of & actualizing something deeply wanted, and the astro may represent the final energetic “push” you’re giving yourself to cross the finish line.

Not all transformations are outwardly apparent – it looks you are challenging yourself, first and foremost, and possibly confronting some (old?) inner demons along the way.  YOU WILL EMERGE VICTORIOUS, THOUGH – stay the course and be open to looking at pathological patterns, because you stand a very good chance of stopping them via a little self-compassion coupled with devotion to what is going on in your inner world.  You are *not* your family-of-origin and as the year closes out, it seems you may be poised to accept some kind of ally/partner into your life who is both simpatico AND challenges your perspective at times (in a good way!) via objectivity and the pointing-out of meta-patterns.  Regardless, it seems like you are rooting out self-worth issues and finding beauty, appreciation, and value in what you had previously deemed your “less desirable bits”, because exploration of these darker inner reaches has given you an altogether different kind of beauty; one rooted in depth and the strength of your own resiliency.

Your astrological prescription for the last two months of the year involves A) Proper physiological and psychological nourishment to keep your mental and physical energy high – like cousin Aries, I’m seeing a need for healthy proteins and complex carbohydrates and B) Allowing yourself to relax – regeneration requires rest; especially as we approach Christmas & the New Year.  If you can burn some PTO just being lazy near these holidays, do so.  You may also benefit from socially disconnecting (or at least getting some distance) from friends whose values are at odds with your own – tolerance is one thing, but as of late it seems you may be bothered by what this has been enabling and thus may make change accordingly.

♐ How goes it, Sagittarius?  While it may not feel like you’re starting November on a particularly strong note, it will get better as the year closes out; particularly if you make it a point to deal with less oppositional – or at the least, less annoying and/or argumentative – people.  Seriously; some things are just not worth fighting about.  Even if they’re material things – the astro may, for example, represent a vengeful partner trying to stick it to you and they’re getting their jollies by drawing you into a negative interaction.  Whatever the case, less really is more and recent events have made you more mindful of *not* taking the bait!  Besides, you will do much better focusing on family, as well as your commitments to your work & health.  Around mid-month, it looks like you are making some financial and interpersonal adjustments – though you are typically a “glass half-full” kind of person, it seems like balance is needed for better judgment in both realms.

You may also benefit from slowing your roll in multiple contexts – you’re energetic, restless, and this itchiness could lead to impulsive action that goes against your better (and more relaxed) judgment.  Maybe you need a physical outlet; kickboxing? Dancing?  Get those legs moving and that heart rate up and it may help to sublimate this energy in more constructive fashion.  You may also benefit from cleaning up your eating; especially as December arrives – think whole foods that are more nutritious and also things that help to lower inflammation; from omega-3 fatty acids to anti-inflammatory herbs & spices, you gain through achieving better balance.  To this end, talk to a pro; someone who can advise you regarding what to eliminate and what to incorporate, because this may have you rethinking things (though do your own research, too, and increase your own understanding of your body & its metabolic processes while you verify their info).

In fact, rethinking things seems to be the name of the game for you as you close out the year and this may extend in a professional sense as well.  As such, I urge you to use December less for making actual moves and more for gathering (better/additional) information – you’ll have a whole new year in front of you, so take your time.  Your perspective is shifting in practical ways, and patience is better than succumbing to knee-jerk reactions made in haste. Dust-off/rework your CV by all means, but for example if your boss is stressed and makes a snippy comment one day, don’t allow yourself to get irked enough to quit on the spot. Communication problems are par for the course for everyone at the end of the year due to Mercury backtracking, so try your best to breathe through any transient hiccups in this regard as you focus on positive self-talk that will make you less re-active and more pro-active in approach.  I do also need to advise you that your health could be wonky between Christmas & New Year’s – limit travel if you can, and if you can’t then protect your face.  A partner/love interest could even bring illness your way via travel, so if you’re sweetie has recently been on a flight it may be better to play it safe and isolate until you’re reasonably confident they’re not ill – this does not appear to be a quick “24-hour bug”; rather something that could linger.

♑ Capable Capricorn, though you might be feeling a little less steady right now, meditate & just give it a few days because you’re actually reorienting and making some positive shifts if you can sequester some time to/for yourself.  This is important in early November, because you may have the sense of needing to make an adjustment to a key relationship in your life; perhaps a partnership or close one-on-one friendship.  A talk may be in order, but you may be a bit guarded with what you say; believing instead that “less is more”.  It’s difficult to improve things, however, if you can’t be honest/real about what would bring balance.  To help alleviate this, try your best to temper honesty with kindness, because “a spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down” as the old saying goes.

As we approach the Thanksgiving holiday, I will advise you of two things: #1) Beg off travel if you can; especially for work or if you feel like you *have* to go (parental guilt trip, anyone??) vs. want to – even in this case, the timing of this looks “off” and it just seems like a headache you really don’t need  #2) Watch your anger; particularly as it relates to being candid – normally you’re very measured, but I’m sensing an uncharacteristic bluntness born of irritation that may not land well with people like parents, elderly figures, bosses, or people in authority.  What *does* work well now is to spot dysfunctional patterns and stop them, so take solace in this if you find yourself getting hot-under-the-collar – remember, only YOU can prevent forest (dumpster?) fires! Mind your physical limits, too, because this is the kind of thing where some kind of activity causes strain or possibly even a broken bone.

You’ll be doing better as we head into December – generally you’re more thoughtful/considered/cautious with your words, your relationships improve (even those with parents and employers), and material matters go well.  Something like a commission or insurance payout could even come into the picture. Speaking of money, you might find yourself doing an internal audit and curbing expenses while looking at spending patterns as we arrive at the last month of the year.  This would be an excellent opportunity for you to look at the psychology behind your spending – perhaps there is a mentor who could help in this regard?  Material savvy is increased/reinforced by keeping devotion to a goal in mind; say for your family or perhaps the goal of homeownership, for example. Make it a point *not* to be “all business” in December, though – pleasure is important for balance too, and you’ll enjoy the fruits of your labors so much more; perhaps most if you shared this with someone special.  You have earned the opportunity to relax, so no need to feel like you’re slacking!

As the year closes, you may be rethinking work/professional matters with a mind toward incorporating more altruistic aims into the capitalism game.  Perhaps there is a way to do this in your current company/line of work; with a little tweaking and perhaps the right contacts.  It might be the kind of thing where you can talk to HR and transfer departments to work in a different capacity more in-line with such aims, for example, or network with others in your field to see what non-profits might be hiring – it would be wonderful if you could put that strong work ethic to use in a way that benefits humanity somehow; whether you work for someone else or are in business for yourself.  Significant material opportunities are coming if you embrace an element of selflessness; be patient & you’ll see this before too long.

♒ Aquarius, I’ll get right down to it: Scorpio season is rarely your favorite time of year and early November could be irksome in the wake of the last eclipse.  I daresay there could even be something a little…self-destructive…going on inside of you, so keeping healthy company will be key right now; look to those who love you & have your well-being in mind & heart to weather any inner or outer turbulence you might be experiencing.  You’re an Airy creature, but the deep waters of Scorpio season may have you feeling stifled with their unrelenting intensity.  It may be uncomfortable, but using this vibe to gain insight into what makes you tick can actually be freeing if you allow it.  We all have murky bits, and occasionally and objectively peering at the darkness within is key to empowerment & freeing ourselves of it.

You’re not a very materialistic creature by nature, but the last several years have seen you perhaps being more acquisitive than is characteristic; likely as a response to all the turbulence going on in the world. Careful that money and material things don’t make your more aloof, though; you are at your best when you are *connected* to the rest of humanity.  So instead of begging the aliens to beam you up (LOL), perhaps what you need right now is to tune into your own catalytic potential as an agent of change; mulling over the future you want to see both for yourself and for this planet and strategizing to align yourself with a simpatico network of peeps who share your ideals.  There may be some adjustment here – especially if you’re organizing something online and have to sort through all the weirdness online interactions can generate – but the most important thing to center on is your values.  It’s a bit like the recent Star Wars saga; it’s not about fighting what you hate, but saving what you love – ponder that for greater inner peace as Scorpio season continues to play itself out.

In December, you do best to keep committed to all aspects of health & wellness; being diligent about physical, mental, emotional, and yes; even relational well-being.  Something about your philosophy may be undergoing an adjustment in this regard – you’re likely going to be able to identify something in your viewpoint that is generating friction/static and then making change accordingly under a very different paradigm. Objectively filtering everything under the lens of healthy/unhealthy is key now, and when it comes to your physical health you might want to eschew some of the normal socializing you tend to do this time of year; particularly with people who have “just flown in from out-of-town” or if you yourself are tempted to hop on a plane and go visit.  You may be more inclined to come down with an acute respiratory aliment between Christmas and the New Year, and Mercury’s nearly stationary motion means this could linger – why end/start the year on a funky note if you don’t have to?  Instead, I encourage you to make good use of technology – even with Mercury retrograding, you should still be able to eke out a video call or two to keep in touch with your long-distance peeps.  If that doesn’t work, there’s always a good old-fashioned phone call!  This doesn’t have to be awkward; work with the retro-inspired vibe and have fun with going analog for a laugh.

♓ Howdy, Pisces!  There is a good chance that you are misunderstanding someone you love or that they are misunderstanding you as November begins, and unfortunately this theme of misinterpretation may not entirely clear up with the Mercury Retrograde soon arriving on-scene.  It will therefore be more important for you to spell things out painstakingly with those you love in early November so nothing is left up to the imagination, and also to see things *as they are* rather than in the better light of *how you would like them to be*.  Right now, you do have some support from Mercury for at least another week, so I would advise jumping in with both feet when it comes to deconstructing any dysfunctional communication dynamics.  Clear and direct communication helps – keep it simple & straightforward & you may experience a quick and positive turnaround.  It’s also about the *energy* of/behind what you’re communicating – by taking ownership of your vibe and nourishing more constructive elements while starving any destructive impulses, you are creating more wholesome interactions.  We all have bad days, but owning where we’re at day-to-day/moment-to-moment can keep us from leading with the wrong foot.

Like several other zodiac signs, you benefit by being more mindful of your health as well during the holiday season; especially if you intend to fly.  With communication already being a challenge to close out the year, the last thing you probably need is to wind up sticking your hoof in your mouth and saying the wrong thing because you’re not feeling your best!  In particular, candor is best tempered with a quieter & more meditative approach, as is looking at rest as an important overall part of your total wellness picture.  Avoid burning the candle at both ends; especially as we get nearer to the Christmas holiday – it seems like you could be more susceptible to infection from the stress of doing too much.  You so often identify as “The Helper” that it is sometimes easy for this to go too far, so practice asking for help too when you have a lot on your plate (or at the very least, not volunteering to take on more).

De-stressing with some mindfulness or breathing techniques can also be quite helpful – in all this merry madness, remember that it’s not so much about where you are or what you do, but about the spirit you keep inside of you.  Focus on being a conduit for the message of the season – goodwill toward men – and let your words and deeds be employed to positive effect in a way that uplifts; especially at work.  Some may not get it but you do, so happily ignore the office gossip or water cooler loudmouth and wish them well this Yuletide, because some just cannot help themselves.  Understanding this and letting annoyance go will make it a lot easier to release the philosophical clashes that might otherwise snag you up in debate.  Besides, you’re not likely to change anyone’s mind, so why bother? As they say, “Don’t worry; be happy!”

10/31/2023

Saturn Retrograde In Aquarius: What’s *Not* In A Friend

^^Quite possibly the most perfect Saturn Retrograde in Aquarius theme song: “I’m not your friend….”

In recent weeks, defining Saturn has turned retrograde in social Aquarius and as such it is a good time to be defining for ourselves what our deal-breakers or lines-in-the-sand are regarding friendships.  Saturn turning retrograde is an ideal time to say “no” to something; to turn a lesson down that we do not need in life.  Looking over our past experiences (because this is always the best teacher, no?) to inform our present and future, the next four months are a fertile time to be asking ourselves what we won’t put up with from friends anymore.  This will be different for everybody of course, but resonant themes might include things like the balance of time or effort towards working on the friendship, for example – if we feel like we’re always doing the work, or that we make more time for somebody than they make for us, this is probably a problem.  Other topics that can gain greater resonance at this time might include whether or not we can count on a friend to truly support us through challenging times (Saturn is so often hardship-related energy), or whether or not they act like a parent in attempting to control us/our life choices and thus fail to respect our free will – anything Saturn-oriented is inclined to take on a parental flavor.  Our friends are not required to agree with everything that we think, feel, or do – in fact, being able to occasionally “check” each other in healthy ways because we want the best for each other is something that sane and good friends should do. But we cannot direct others’ lives for them, either – the ability to respect boundaries and others’ right to learn from and through their mistakes is equally important.  Nobody wants a friend in their life who constantly tells them what to do or *not* do; that just smacks of a control issue – Saturn is bossy, authoritarian energy when not kept in check. 

I think perhaps the most important question to be asking ourselves at this time: If we were to have a problem with how a friend was treating us, would they take it seriously, conscientiously, and work on the issue?  Or would they perhaps instead be resistant toward being accountable for their behavior? If the answer is the latter, defining such a person as a “friend” could be unwarranted; an acquaintance, perhaps, but any friend of real substance or value can/will own their mistakes and work to strengthen the connection rather than become cold, aloof, & distant if/when we’ve told them a behavior isn’t working for us and we have instead found it alienating.  I think one of the social problems we all face these days results from the collective dilution in the definition of the word “friend” – social media platforms have made it easy to maintain a thin and detached definition of what friendship is. The ironic effect: Instead of social media being used for its highest purpose – which is to truly make society more connected – it has normalized a less caring, less involved level of interaction; just with a greater quantity of people. If Saturn teaches us anything, though, it is quality over quantity.  Always.

Saturn in Aquarius is the time to work on any problems in our friendships.  Should we fail to and thus be derelict in our duty in this regard, we then lose the right to be shocked/surprised when karma boomerangs back on us later and someone whom we’ve previously called a friend/relied upon for support suddenly doesn’t have the time for us or doesn’t want to put in the effort anymore – Saturn is known as the Lord of Karma for good reason.  Surely if this global period of social isolation has taught us all one thing, it is that life is short and – particularly as we age – nobody wants to be lonely and without tried-and-true friends they can depend on.  Since March 2020 Saturn in Aquarius has taught us much about the nature of our friendships and – more importantly – what we need to straighten out and get right in this area of our lives.  Boundaries and standards have come into vogue in this arena, as has looking at our own limitations, lacks, or stumbling blocks and where there may be some onus on us to up our game and be a better caliber of friend ourselves – taking personal responsibility for where we ourselves may have come up short is always a good look when Saturn is involved. 

But particularly now with Saturn having turned retrograde and the second of three squares between Saturn in Aquarius and socially-oriented Uranus peaking in just about an hour, it is a perfect time to be considering what’s *not* in a friend.   Just say “no” to qualities and characteristics in a friend that don’t make the cut and re-assess your level of commitment – it’s OK to re-classify someone in our friend zone and downgrade them to “associate” level if we’re having an ongoing problem with their behavior that seems resistant to resolution, or perhaps take time away from the friendship to re-assess whether it still has a purpose or use in our lives.  This can be tricky territory, however – low-vibration Saturn in Aquarius thinks nothing of using its social connections for personal or professional advancement in rather selfish ways that benefit the user.  Hi-functioning Saturn in Aquarius, however, sees the purpose of community  as being an opportunity for everybody to contribute and to be included in some way; regardless of how limited their capacity or role may be.   The latter honors each person’s humanity and respects their limitations; the former takes a very self-interested cut-and-dried approach to how their social connections facilitate or hinder their ambitions without considering what they themselves are or aren’t contributing.   All of these themes are very timely considerations at the moment.

06/14/2021

Mercury Retrograde Can Be Tough On Pets

Pets2I have written about this topic before in my monthly newsletter, but with respect to Mercury Retrograde it is worth paying attention to our pets whenever this planet is due to backtrack/is in “reverse” gear.  Mercury symbolically rules small animals, and when this planet is out-of-sorts so too can be our furry, feathered, or scaly little friends. This isn’t to cause us any undue worry; only to inspire us toward a little extra diligence before and during these cyclical periods in the name of possible prevention.  For example,  Mercury Retrograde could correlate with a health issue potentially surfacing in our pets. They might break their leash or run out of an open house door and thus wind up lost.  Some odd behavior can possibly crop up that – as their caretakers – we have never seen before.  They may chew/swallow/drink/inhale something they shouldn’t.  Dietary problems sometimes occur.  It is therefore a good idea to be extra attentive/attuned to our pets during these periods, keep a good eye on them so they don’t wind up going walkabout on us, monitor their surroundings for potential errant stimuli, avoid giving them new toys without supervision, and stick to their usual routines (including feeding; both timing and type/brand of food) at these times.

06/10/21

The Next Mercury Retrograde Mission, Part 2

Part 1 here.

There are many potential issues presented by the current Mercury Retrograde due its three square-offs with Neptune in Pisces before, during, and after the retrograde ends.  If you know anything about Neptune, one of the bigger challenges posed by this planet involves its inclination toward (self?)deceptiveness.  When you combine this with Mercury’s influence, multiply by two (or more); even the “little white lies” add up.  Because this is a square and not an opposition we are more likely to encounter this dishonesty within ourselves, but care should still be used when dealing with others during this retrograde nonetheless so that we do not take for granted the other party being upfront/above-board.  Low-vibration Neptune in Pisces tends toward denial of our less-than-savory character traits, but the fact that we all – to a greater or lesser degree – have them is universal to the human experience.  We *all* have “stuff” to work on; the shame lies in lying to ourselves about our faults because then we cannot possibly fix them.

DuplicityWhen Mercury Retrograde makes multiple contacts to Neptune in Pisces like this, it’s a cosmic call to look at character flaws like gossip, double-speak, lying, the spreading of misinformation, duplicity, having poor boundaries around our communications; from TMI to having “loose lips” and spilling secrets, and having disorganized or disordered mentalities about things.  Something is likely “wrong” – and by that, I simply mean non-functional – with the way we have been communicating or thinking.  So-called “magical thinking” can overtake the brain’s logic; mantras, affirmations, and visualizations are not a substitute for doing the work to clean up our messes, nor are they meant to be substitutes for help from a qualified mental healthcare provider.  Weird pseudo-spiritual “rationale” can infect our minds like a thought virus; although a concept may sound spiritual on a superficial level, please water-test it first by breaking down its various components to see if it is truly helpful and healthy or instead may be misguided.  Information tends to exist in a vacuum during this time and it is easier to think that something can be blanket-applied without taking into account our specific situation(s), fail to consider how accurate or sensible it is outside of a small bubble of micro-influence, or neglect to investigate whether or not there is accurate data to back it up. Yes, even if the info being presented is well-intended/meant to be “helpful”! Mercury in Gemini squaring off with Neptune in Pisces is a caution against drinking the “Kool-Aid” in an intellectual sense; it’s likely laced/spiked with something toxic.

Speaking without discernment – or discretion – is a problem during this retrograde.  Gossip, double-talk, the spreading of false or misleading information, speaking negatively about others when we think they are out of earshot, and/or generally having poor boundaries in our communications can ricochet back at us; causing sorrow and suffering for ourselves as well as others.  Divinity sees all of this,  even if we can’t/don’t/won’t admit wrongdoing to ourselves.  Whenever Neptune in Pisces touches something, there is often a certain amount of cowardice involved; what are we running from?

As far as the deceit portion of this energy goes, this is not to trivialize *at all* the suffering of those who have been victimized by it but perhaps one of the things most overlooked about dishonesty is the harm we ultimately wind up doing ourselves whenever we lie.  Consciously or subconsciously, our conscience knows this is not good for the soul; lying/hiding/omitting things damages not only our relationships with others (who will no doubt find us untrustworthy), but it hurts our spirit and the love and reverence that we have for ourselves.  It is hard to feel worthy of goodness when behaving in a way that we ourselves would not like to be treated.

Rather than continue this sad cycle ad infinitum, finding forgiveness for ourselves and redoubling our efforts to make amends by speaking only as we would like to be spoken to can help us to find redemption.  If any of the above have been character defects with which we have struggled, humbly acknowledging this weakness to ourselves while asking Divinity to help remove any fork in our tongue and instead guide us toward channeling our words in a more enlightened manner is the way to go during this retro. Apologizing and atoning via empathy, sensitivity, compassion, utter transparency, and in a way that truly serves the Highest Good of All is the way to approach.  We all make mistakes, but self-deception and the unhealthy behaviors that stem from this is a reversible one if we understand the multiple factors that can cause it and just take it “one day at a time” – recovery is possible.  Apologies matter now, but they do have to be more than just empty words.

06/10/2021

Saturn In Aquarius Square Uranus In Taurus: The Right (& Wrong) Uses Of Technology

TechnologyTechnology has always been a Uranian free-for-all; from the internet as a complete entity itself, to social media platforms, to the data being collected by apps and devices, it’s the wild wild west and always has been. Technology evolves faster than regulations – and dinosaur politicians – can keep up, and this isn’t a good thing when you have things like, say, a violent insurrection attempt to overthrow your government organizing/mobilizing on the likes of Parler, world leaders allowed to influence elections on Facebook, and our smartphones and apps collecting and selling vast troves of user data unchecked.  One of the main things Saturn does is test things for integrity – it pressurizes a situation and makes the stakes high while calling for the implementation of rules, codes of conduct/ethics, standards, laws, etc. Saturn is always a regulatory influence whenever something needs dat ass checked; it is the Cosmic PoPo, if you will.   Do the right thing  or face the consequences – it’s your choice, but fail to do so and there will be penalties enforced – nobody escapes Saturn’s karmic wheel; whether you pay in this lifetime, the next, or the hereafter, you will pay.  This is why its principles of self-regulation are so crucially important to learn – if we check ourselves, we will never need to externalize/outsource this to somebody else.

Now when Saturn resides community-minded Aquarius, communities – online and off – are called to police themselves; particularly against rogue elements not acting in accordance with the collective value system when this planet squares Uranus in Taurus.   Uranus is also extremely technology oriented, and perhaps when we have people like Apple’s Tim Cook – a high-profile leader in the technology sector (Saturn in Aquarius) – chastising the industry status quo and calling for reform at a recent speech at the end of January, the time has come:

“Technology does not need vast troves of personal data stitched together across dozens of websites and apps in order to succeed. Advertising existed and thrived for decades without it, and we’re here today because the path of least resistance is rarely the path of wisdom. If a business is built on misleading users on data exploitation, on choices that are no choices at all, then it does not deserve our praise. It deserves reform. We should not look away from the bigger picture. In a moment of rampant disinformation and conspiracy theories juiced by algorithms, we can no longer turn a blind eye to a theory of technology that says all engagement is good engagement, the longer the better, and all with the goal of collecting as much data as possible. Too many are still asking the question ‘How much can we get away with?’ when they need to be asking ‘What are the consequences?’

“What are the consequences of prioritizing conspiracy theories and violent incitement simply because of the high rates of engagement? What are the consequences of not just tolerating but rewarding content that undermines public trust in life-saving vaccinations? What are the consequences of seeing thousands of users joining extremist groups and then perpetuating an algorithm that recommends even more? It is long past time to stop pretending that this approach doesn’t come with a cost. A polarization of lost trust, and yes, of violence. A social dilemma cannot be allowed to become a social catastrophe.”

Regardless of what one thinks of Apple or of Mr. Cook, Tim is making a very timely point with this speech.  We also have platforms like Twitter and Facebook – way past a day late and a dollar short for sure – finally de-platforming the likes of Donald Trump et al; people who blatantly use social media for all the wrong ends/reasons.  I will bet you that Facebook’s & Twitter’s decisions to do this hinge not on the rightness or wrongness of the action, but of the potential financial and legal liability/repercussions for them to continue to allow it.  With Uranus in Taurus, change is, more often than not, all about the moo-lah.  Those citing freedom of speech concerns should know by now this only applies to government censorship; it does not apply to private citizens or companies – the First Amendment cannot be used as both a sword (to say whatever I want, however I want) and a cowards’ shield against social accountability.   You are free to express your views, however if someone doesn’t like them and tells you to GFY, your free speech rights are not being violated.  If you advocate violence against those of Asian descent and you get banned from an online community/platform, or fired from your job as a consequence, suck it up, Buttercup.  You can hold whatever wrong views you like, but others are not required to condone, uphold, or host while you spout off and possibly incite others. 

We see how this square affects things on a macro level, but what about on an individual level?  This is a prudent time to be evaluating – and re-evaluating – how we’ve been using technology; including the internet as a whole.  Is it a time-saver or a time-waster? Could we benefit from cutting back?  Is it keeping us connected to others, or is it locking us into communities that have problematic social dynamics?  Is it something that genuinely facilitates progress both socially in business, or are we capitalizing on the image of “wokeness” by merely virtue-signaling to a larger audience?  Are we using technology to create stronger, more unified communities or shrinking/fracturing society by excluding  – or worse, radicalizing – people?  Do we have a sense of personal ethics/ a code of conduct on the internet and social media, or do we demonstrate poorly socialized online behaviors?  This isn’t the 90’s anymore – times have changed and the internet has been around long enough for us to know that our virtual conduct needs to evolve beyond the adolescent stage.  What we’ve steadily been seeing, however (particularly in more recent times), is a collective devolution largely due our over-reliance on technologies and – more specifically – technology companies that really don’t have humanity’s best interests in mind or heart.  Ponder this for a bit while you’re deciding how much control you want technology to have over you.

05/05/2021

Adios, Jupiter In Aquarius: The Truth Will Set You Free

We have less than a fortnight remaining of Jupiter in Aquarius before it enters Pisces on May 13th and as it expends the last of its energy in this sign, the motto “The Truth Will Set You Free” has never rang, well,  truer.  Somewhere along the way during its passage though surprising Aquarius, it’s likely we’ve been hit by at least one shocking truth; possibly more  than one if we had several significant planets in our own astrological chart receiving a jolt from this energy. As shaken as we might have been/might be, we must remember the Truth is something that is ultimately meant to liberate when Jupiter passes through this sign.  At its best, this astrological placement gives us sudden clarity and objectivity that allows us to achieve massive evolutionary growth.  We become detached enough to see what’s best for us and seek greater independence as we change our beliefs nearly instantaneously. Our fortune also changes quickly under Jupiter Aquarius – freak luck can hit, but we can also wind up being this guy:

So if you’ve found yourself feeling more like  ^that guy up there^ during Jupiter’s passage through the Water Bearer, do what he suggests and remind yourself how lucky you are just to be alive.  Then realize all the truths that jolted you were meant to help you evolve – sometimes growth is disruptive, but it is necessary for a quantum leap upward.  Thank Jupiter in Aquarius for setting you free to find – and be – better.

05/02/2021

A Mars Retrograde In Aries Perspective On “Real Men”

Setting aside any potential Toxic Masculinity implications of the term aside, the retrograde of manly Mars through the ultra-masculine sign of Aries would like to have a few words with us on the subject of what a “real man” is and isn’t. Rx♂

Being a “Real Man” isn’t dependent upon what does or doesn’t dangle between your legs, the size of such organs, or whether you equate being “brave” with the willingness to take  foolish risks. It’s not about beating your (hairy?) chest in a show of bravado, or flexing your biceps until the sleeves of your shirt bust at the seams.  Mars retrograding in Aries would like to remind us all that a penis and testicles do not a man make, that emotional cowardice is a real thing, and prompts us to understand that those averse to taking emotional risks often seek to alleviate this hidden internal insecurity caused by a lack of inner strength by overcompensating with more obvious displays of outward might – see the red herring for what it is.

Being a “Real Man” isn’t about dominance – it is about setting an example; *being* that example. A “Real Man” serves as an exemplar of how to “stand up” in all senses of the word (properly and appropriately self-assert/be morally upright/be independent & self-reliant).  “He” isn’t afraid to tell other “men” to come correct when “he” sees them acting like an animal or a child.  A “Real Man” protects those in need of protection quickly and does not hesitate to be an “army of one” if need be.

Being a “Real Man” isn’t about hiding emotion; it is about being brave enough to show your true face in all ways; always.  It is being confident enough in your own strength to support and sustain others.  And it is the courage to be as you are and know with certainty that is how you were meant to live.  A “Real Man” takes swift, corrective action in his mistakes and possesses enough inner fortitude to apologize when warranted rather than viewing it as it being “weak” to say you’re sorry and seeking instead to “save face”.  A “Real Man” puts “his” best foot forward and eschews one-upmanship – “he” understands that there is no need for competition when you are secure in your ability to provide something of substance to the rest of the “pack”.  Being a “Real Man” is understanding that being powerful is a state of mind; not how many pounds you can bench press.  And lastly, it is an appreciation for the physicality of being alive without that physicality becoming a character handicap that defines your personality. 

Thus spake Retrograde Mars in Aries 🔥

10/11/2020

Saturn In Capricorn Square Chiron In Aries, Part 3

Hands up; who’s had the sense the sands of the hourglass are slipping through our fingers ever since Saturn arrived in Capricorn at the end of 2017?? As the current square between Saturn and Chiron continues this is not something likely to immediately let up and there’s a very real sense that no, we cannot do it all.  Maybe age is catching up with us.  Perhaps we’ve found ourselves limited with some kind of physical injury that gives us the painful realization this notion we *can* (or “should”) do it all is actually an incredibly ableist POV. It’s possible we’re dealing with severe professional pressure/angst.  Maybe instead it’s serious parental pressure/angst; either regarding our own parents or our role *as* a parent.  Perhaps we *are* a working parent and it’s a combination of these last two scenarios.  Whatever the case, it can hurt like hell to realize we can’t make time for *everything* on our list of priorities but something we want to be or do simply isn’t going to make the cut.  To manage this, we must figure out what is most important to us and create a personal hierarchy.  Though it sucks to cull something we just don’t have time for anymore, the alternative is continuing to live under the crushing weight of this immature notion that we can/should do it all and let it slowly squeeze the life out of us.  If you can, delegate. If you can’t, resolve to give something up for at least the next two years (i.e. the remainder of Saturn’s stay in Capricorn) because it’s not sustainable to carry on like this. Hopefully there’s something you can put on “hold” till later to help alleviate this pressure because time can indeed heal all wounds if we will but give some to ourselves.

**Read the previous installment in this series: Saturn In Capricorn Square Chiron In Aries, Part 2

08/29/2018

Mars Conjunct Saturn In Sadge: Punching Above Your Weight

Warrior planet Mars has been traversing Sagittarius since early March, but it is only now that we find The Red Planet coming within proximity to a conjunction with hefty Saturn, almost as if it were getting ready for some kind of huge and highly-publicized title fight. Though Mars retreats from this confrontation due his impending retrograde (which begins on April 17th) and this conjunction won’t get a chance to perfect until August, I keep seeing this duo factoring prominently in consultation lately and it has been calling to mind the concept of “punching above your weight” – let me explain…

In Traditional astrology, Mars & Saturn are considered malefics; i.e. generally speaking wherever these guys go in the chart, Trouble tends to follow. It’s not as if they are without their positive facets; it’s just that – as a first order – what you are inclined to get is conflict (Mars) and adversity (Saturn). Can these be overcome? Absolutely. But I think when these two celestial bodies join together to form an astrological Tag Team of Tribulation, it is only good sense to be on the lookout for problematic manifestations.

When I see this duo expressing their energies within the confines of a specific house or concentrating their energies upon a certain planet, I feel there is a real possibility of finding ourselves at some kind of competitive disadvantage in that area of life. For example, we may literally be going up against a stronger opponent; someone with a better reputation, more status, authority, or general clout. This isn’t meant to inspire fear; rather to instill an appropriate level of respect for the challenges we may be up against in a given area of life – particularly if we find ourselves outranked/outclassed in some way. So before initiating some kind of conflict (especially a legal one with both malefics in litigious Sadge) that could blow up and carry big consequences, I think it’s important to pause and check the ego. Because when Mars occupies this sign, the default inclination may be to operate from a place of moralistic “right fighting”. It is certainly one thing to fight for Justice and/or Truth, but it’s quite another to identify the ego so strongly with the principle of being “right” that we fail to see the warning signs that advise “Danger Ahead”.

Remember Mike Tyson’s Punch-Out for the NES back in the day? Playing this dude named Little Mac & invariably getting your ass kicked the first time you went up against old Iron Mike? Yeah, that.

Mars combining with Saturn can so often lend itself to an “Enforcer” type of vibe, and especially if we find ourselves placing our perception of Truth up against someone else’s, this can indeed be a recipe for Trouble when righteousness runs amok. We may get so focused upon what someone else is doing “wrong” that we could lose sight of our own behavior (and thus the broader ramifications that may come of this) in the process. This isn’t a time to let a beef become something bigger than it needs to be – ideally, we manage it at an optimally appropriate level whenever possible. If for some reason these containment measures aren’t enough and we wind up legitimately needing to escalate it, we do so gradually and with a full understanding of the totality of what we’re up against.

Pausing to show beneficial self-restraint while considering the big-picture perspective of whether or not – in the Grand Scheme of Things – this is a philosophical hill worth metaphorically dying upon can help us avoid bigger problems down the road….I’m thinking potential scenarios that could entail damage to things like our reputation or bigger long-term career prospects, for example. Because this to me looks like it can have all the makings of a public and high-profile fight of some kind….perhaps one of biblical proportions, even. It’s not that David can’t overcome Goliath; it’s just that before we find ourselves in a “punching above our weight” kind of scenario, it’s prudent to take a step back and consider whether we really want a conflict to become a potentially defining moment/event in our lives. If this is indeed something we must do, then preparation and timing will be key – train hard and make sure to land a solid hit at the most opportune moment possible. A sling may also help. 😉

Be advised the energy of this conjunction will be loosely in effect throughout April, but it returns for a rematch in August which will be the true Main Event.

04/01/2016

Synchronicity Under The Libra New Moon

The Universe is absolutely amazing sometimes…! Tonight while at my yoga class just ahead of the impending Libra New Love Moon, my teacher happened to have this song on the playlist:

Lyrics:

“Remove all fear;
Come from where you are to here.
Let your eyes
Meet mine.
For a moment let your heart be mine.

Come to me, I will take away your sorrow.
Come to me, I will open your tomorrow.
Come to me, I will open up your heart.
Come to me, we will never be apart.

May love mesmerize your soul.
May the devas make you whole.
Can you align yourself in constant devotion;
Find your liberation?

The tears of kindness come
When you love everyone.
Your precious soul is finally found.
Love, infinite love, brings you ‘round….

Come to me, I will take away your sorrow.
Come to me, I will open your tomorrow.
Come to me, I will open up your heart.
Come to me, we will never be apart.”

What a lovely, sweet, and fitting message for the Libra New Moon now upon us…! If there had been any doubt in my mind about this correlation, it was promptly dispelled when I noted the name of the album this song came from – “Wings of Peace”! Peace is such a Libra theme, and perhaps with winged messenger Mercury also residing in this sign (on the fated North Node, no less..!) this message was meant to be shared tonight  ❤

10/12/2015